This is my son. He's going to be 17 this month. Those of you that have teens, will know that getting them to agree with you and your knowledge is, if ever, RARE!
The past month has been a period of great change at The Hatfield House. You see, both of my children have been experiencing more signs/symptoms of poor time management. My son, has always had difficulty. Mostly because his mind works in such a different and, I believe, more complex way than most...he gets easily distracted. Crazily enough, he doesn't get distracted necessarily with typical teen things but, for him, reading about politics, working out, fitness/ nutrition and reading about ANYTHING are distractions. Having said that he DOES also get distracted with teen things too ~I mean he IS a typical teen boy.
He is labeled "gifted" and we are currently using a non-traditional schooling method (virtual online charter high school) that, for him and us, is proving to be a wonderful thing. I mention this to you, not just because I am so proud and in awe of his abilities BUT more so you realize that students who are above average, gifted and highly intelligent often will NOT be as successful as they could or should be because of poor time management skills. They under perform and nobody can understand how someone so bright could NOT get perfect grades or turn in assignments.
It wasn't until I started to focus on helping students with time management in my practice, that I realized that both of my children could really use some more assistance. Funny how things work out that way. For my son, the wheels started to fall off when he got a job about 6 weeks ago (shhh, part of my grand plan of insisting on him having a job or as my friend Kelly says part of the "puppet master's" plan). I knew he would struggle when he wasn't able to make his own agenda all of the time and truth be told, I really was starting to worry about him and succeeding in college (only two short years away!).
Lucky for me, both of my kids agreed to be used as case studies (AKA guinea pigs) and both agreed that I could share their experiences with all of you (pretty impressed that a middle schooler and high schooler agreed).
I'm not ready to report on everything but did want to share our successes thus far (mostly because my son-remember he's almost 17) has said things like "I don't want to admit you are right, but you are right", "Thank you, mom for helping me get a handle on this", "I"m actually enjoying this Biology lab and it's not as bad and cumbersome as I thought it would be", "I got intimidated by the wall of words and I thought it'd take a long time", "I feel a strange sense of pride, mom", "I thought that lesson would take me 10 minutes and it took me 6", "it takes a little longer to shower and get ready and eat than I thought" and MOST IMPORTANTLY....
I JUST got a hug while I was writing this blog post.
(from an almost 17 year old!).
That makes all of this worth it.
Well, that and the fact that I am becoming more sure that he won't be living in my basement at age 30 because of poor time management skills and not being able to hold down a job or be successful in college.
Be sure to watch my blog as I'll continue to update on my son's progress and share my daughter's successes as well. She's working on a long term project that isn't due until later this month and because of the strategies I've taught her....is almost DONE!
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