According to Sean Covey, author of The 7 Habits of highly Effective Teens, a paradigm is the way you see something-your point of view, frame of reference, or belief. Teens who underachieve or who have executive functioning difficulties {these frequently go hand in hand}, often have a poor paradigm of self. Meaning that the thoughts they think about themselves limit their achievements. Students who achieve, you guessed it, frequently have positive paradigms of self. This is not always the case, but the majority do. While you may think that it is easy to spot a teen who has a positive or negative paradigm of self, you may be surprised at how hard it is. We are each quite talented at keeping some of our thoughts/fears hidden deep inside and teens are no exception. How can you figure out where your teen falls on the paradigm of self spectrum? 5 minute paradigm self checkTake five minutes to sit down with your teen and ask them a few probing questions. Some suggestions are:
You may need to help them out a bit if they are really stumped by these questions. Feel free to help lead them down the right path by asking specific questions appropriate to each main question above. What next?First, Talk about any negatives you uncovered. If your teen says something along the lines of: "I'm not good at math. I stink at talking to people. I'm not a good hitter etc..." Next, Have them choose one they'd like to change. Then, make sure that YOU are helping them shift this negative paradigm by having plenty of opportunities to talk about and demonstrate their potential in that particular are.a.
An easy way to do this is by making sure you have some daily or at least weekly time together. Another perfect reason to join the July Family Time Challenge we're having. If your teen is really struggling with coming up with any positives or you feel unequipped to help them. Get in touch with me. I have a tip or a tool that can help you both. In the meantime, grab these freebies! Jennifer
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Our monthly theme here at Therapy and Learning Service, Inc is BALANCE. We'll be discussing how to find it, how to keep it and why it's so important to demonstrate this very important skill to your teens.
Research shows that having consistent family time not only is good for family relationships but cultivates those ever important life skills {executive functioning skills} that our kids need in order to thrive in the world! Learn more about how demonstrating a balanced life helps our teens. An important thing to remember is not to feel like #familytime is another thing to add to the schedule. Be intentional but try to just let it happen. It doesn't have to be perfect to count! Capitalize on those moments when you are all together. Here are a few easy ways to begin to implement #familytime into your schedule.
Join our challenge by posting an update or picture about your #familytime on one of our Twitter, Facebook or Instagram {JenHatfieldSLP}. Do you already have daily or weekly #familytime? I'd love to hear your ideas! Jennifer |
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